Click here to see our warning to families with domestic abuse.
A brief explanation of our assistance to families experiencing separation or divorce and to the professionals who serve them
Comments of Judge Michael Scopelitis, St. Joseph Superior Court, Indiana
A handout for your use in presentations to colleagues
These simple notices and court rules, and adaptations of them, are sending thousands of parents each month to these free websites.
An attorney describes what UpToParents meant in her own divorce—and can mean for others
An example--in English and Spanish--of the Agreed Commitments a mother and father can build from UpToParents
A sample of parents' written website work
A sampling of the comments we receive about these free websites
13 points of one-of-a-kind superiority of these websites
Jurisdictions’ opportunity to easily track their success in referring parents to these websites
A short statement of the advantages these resources can be to parents in divorce and paternity cases--and the ease with which they can be implemented in any jurisdiction
A short memo and video training on the child-focused preparation that can assist mediation success
A short memo and the simple forms that can bring this child and solution focus to Collaborative attorneys, divorce coaches, and child specialists
See 25 specific measures a jurisdiction can adopt to meet the true needs of families in separation and divorce (videostream included).
This model court rule for cooperative family law can be adapted to help jurisdictions better serve families in crisis.
Forrest "Woody" Mosten, a prominent collaborative attorney, mediator, and author offers a picture of the problem-solving attorney
A model order that a single judge can use to boost cooperation in family law cases
Educational brochures essential in explaining the judicial expectations of safety and child-focused cooperation
Learn clearer thinking from these more caring attorneys
The movement toward a lawyer's duty of healing is not so much a modern innovation as a return to the profession's highest historical calling.
An outline for parents to succeed in parenting.
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Form used when speaking with parents' attorneys.
An explanation of what mediation is--and what it is not.
Intake form for parents.
Agreement to Mediate form for parents.
Some letters memorializing agreements reached by parents using mediation.
Six quick ideas for your presentations to colleagues
This website really puts things in perspective. It makes you realize that no matter how trying times are, you'll do best by thinking about your kids first.
father, NSW, Australia
This is great for the children of divorce. Even when we love each other, we can hurt them by accident. Thanks for these reminders!
father, Nashville, Tennessee
It was great. I wish that I would have gotten a hold of this much earlier. Please make this a prerequisite to getting divorced.
father, Riverside, California
Great website! I can't wait to apply these lessons - as a matter of fact, it has inspired me to make changes already.
father, Altanta, Georgia
I loved the website. These are things you know but can never hear enough. I loved that it’s personalized to our family and, most of all, our daughter.
mother, Nashville, Tennessee
I really enjoyed it. It reminds me how we must work together even now. I will tell others about this.
father, Temecula, California
This is so informative and easy to use. A+! It helped me tremendously.
mother, Indianapolis, Indiana
I was really surprised by everything that I didn’t know. This was a requirement from court, and it is going to help me a lot.
mother, Santa Ana, California
A long-needed site. My sincere applause. It was definitely very helpful to me personally – and so effective in extracting a lot of deep emotion and empathy.
father, Valparaiso, Indiana
I actually thought it would be a waste of time. But right when I started, I cried. I really wasn’t looking at everything through my daughter’s eyes and her needs. Please keep this website going.
father, Easthampton, Massachusetts
Having been a child from a horrible divorce, I think this is a great idea. Some of the videos on this website brought me to tears. I will absolutely recommend this to others.
Extremely helpful. It helped me to refocus on my children and how my pain is hurting them. I would recommend this to anyone dealing with separation or divorce.
mother, Blairsville, Georgia